I stood outside in shock.
I wasn’t sure if I was sad or upset. There was a lump in my throat and a knot in my stomach.
I found one of Little One’s bunnies lifeless and its littermate suffering from some kind of neurological issue. The way its head was tilted to one side and looking up to the sky, I knew something was wrong. That, and the fact that it showed no interest in food or water made it clear that this bunny was ill. Meningitis? Some kind of distemper? Who knows? Whatever it was, the bunny was definitely sick.
Do you ever lie to your kids?
I don’t understand. The bunnies have been happy and healthy for weeks! They have been active and eating well. We’ve been handling them and playing with them every day. How could they all of a sudden go from active to…*gasp* lifeless?
When I got all the animals settled for bed last night, all of them were happy, healthy and active. To find that little bunny dead made me burst out in tears.
Part of me wonders if I have it in me to be a farmer’s wife. I’m not good at dealing with death at all.
Is a little white lie still a lie?
Little One and Hubby were at the Fall Fair. Hubby was judging livestock and Little One went to help him, She wanted to be his assistant in judging the poultry, rabbits, sheep and goats. I stayed back at the farm to get mountains of laundry done, finish up some projects and get chores finished. It was the perfect opportunity to get “replacement bunnies”.
Part of me felt that I need to be up front and honest with my five year old and just tell her that her bunnies had died. Yes, both bunnies passed away today. I spoke to the lady I got the bunnies from and she said out of twenty bunnies (three litters this year), only two others were found dead like that.
Should I get replacement bunnies or just tell my five year old the truth?
Being on the farm, Little One has experienced the loss of ducks and chickens, as well as her first bunnies. She seems to be more at ease than I am when it comes to life and death.
Dreading telling her about her bunnies, I got Hubby to deliver the news. He asked her about the circle of life and she told him what she told me earlier this year. Then he took her outside to show her the deceased bunnies and her reaction surprised me. She let out a soft, “Awww!” and then went jumping on her trampoline.
The entire time, I dreaded her reaction because she loved those bunnies so much. She merely stated that this is part of life. People and animals live and then they die.
How did my little five year old get so wise?
Parents, do you ever lie to your kids?
** Edited to include: During a visit with neighbours and fellow farming family today, the husband told me to be up front with Little One. “She lives on a farm. When you have livestock, you will also have deadstock.” No truer words have ever been told. Still, this is something I struggle with. Ten years on the Island and on eight years on the farm, and I still can’t seem to adapt completely. Farm life is not easy.