I never expected this to happen — at least not this early.
We were at a dinner party and there was a lot of giggling from the kids when all of a sudden, my friend yelled, “NO KISSING, you guys!” Sure enough, there was my little girl, about to kiss my friend’s six year old. Yes, the pair were both giggling, had their eyes closed and were reaching in for a smooch. We quickly sat them down and chatted with them about being too young for that.
Little One has made it known that she is in love with her classmate’s older brother. She’s only five years old and obviously way too young to be even thinking about crushes, love, kissing, and getting married! Way too young.
She’s only five years old and it worries me that she’s so “boy crazy” at such a young age. She actually “swoons” at the mention of this particular boy’s name. She even told me something shocking the other week.
LO: Me and [insert friend’s name] and [insert friend’s older brother’s name] are like the Vampire Diaries.
Me: (wanting desperately to correct her and say [friend], [friend’s brother] and I are like the Vampire Diaries, but decided to stay focused and on task) What? Vampire Diaries? We never watch that show. What do you know about the Vampire Diaries?!
LO: MOMMMMM! It’s a love triangle!?! [Friend] loves me and I love [friend’s brother]!
*sigh*
She’s too little and far too young to be talking about and thinking about boys this way. How does a five year old learn about love triangles? When I was in kindergarten, I was only interested in My Little Pony and Cabbage Patch Kids!
I just want her to stay little a while longer. No thinking about boys and kissing…and getting married! She keeps talking about how she’s going to marry her crush and when they are grown up they are going to have kids together. *huge sigh*
How did this happen? Why did this happen? How do we deal with this?
Back to the kissing part…
When I told Little One that she cannot kiss her friend, she asked, “Why, Mama? I thought kissing was for love? I kiss you because I love you. You kiss Daddy. I kiss my Lola and my Grampy…and my cousins.”
She looked so confused. I told my five year old that sure, we kiss people we love, but we don’t kiss everyone. We don’t kiss our friends or our crushes…and she is not to kiss any boy until she’s thirty! Okay, not thirty, but maybe not until she’s a lot older. Does eighteen sound reasonable? Hahaha!
Aw that’s really cute but I can see how as a parent I would worry! If it’s any consolation, I was absolutely head over heels for two boys in my kindergarten class, but come Grade 1, I remember being “so over” boys 😉
It’s so hard at this age, because they don’t fully understand any of it. My little lady is only 3.5 and constantly worried no one will be her husband! I have no idea where she has such a strong notion from. She told me she wanted Daddy to be her husband when she’s grown up. I explained that he can’t and she was quite upset. “But then, who is gonna be my husband?!” Her eyes were full of tears and all! I kept trying to explain that there is plenty of time to worry about things like that when she’s older. She has been caught once kissing a friend’s son, but she kisses everyone. We’ve just had to go through the talk about how kissing on the lips is for mom and dad only and for someone special when she’s older. She can kiss her friends, uncles, aunts, etc, on the cheek. She gets it, but I don’t think she fully understands why just yet.
It’s hard to give you any real advice, since you’re ahead of my in this parenting gig 😉 but I do recall what I was like at 4 or 5. I was boy crazy. I still loved My Little Ponies and dolls, etc., but I also loved the boy across the courtyard. I was only 4 when I planted a kiss on the poor unsuspecting little guy. He was not to happy about it 😉 While I was pretty boy crazy growing up, my mom encouraged me into other interests – acting, writing, reading, etc. I think she had a notion that maybe I had a flare for the dramatic… It gave me good balance. I always had a “boyfriend” but I always had my own interests, friends, etc. Hopefully some of that can help.
Awww! Your little one is such a sweetie, Crys! Thanks so much for your awesome comment. Your mom is a smart lady! So important to have other interests 🙂 Sheesh! This parenting thing is not for the faint of heart! LOL!