When you’re a newly married couple, people always ask, “When are you going to start a family?”
When you have your first child, people always seem to ask, “When are you going to have Baby #2?”
I can’t help but feel a little bit of anxiety when people ask these rather innocent questions. Though I do wish for a younger sibling for Little One, I can’t help but be scared.
Kim:
I really big, fat, fuzzy heart you!!!
By the way, I can’t believe Chunky just turned 3! Little One turns 3 in November! I think I’m going to cry!
J:
We had a consultation with my OB and he was confident that the next pregnancy will go to full term if he puts in a cervical cerclage and then removes it when it’s time to deliver. He said now that they know, the can do something. The first pregnancy went undetected until a random ultrasound at 21 weeks showed that I was already dilating.
I’m worried also about ending up on bed rest for weeks and weeks (like last time), only this time I have a toddler!
Hubby wants Baby #2 and is hoping for a boy to keep the family name going. He’s the last male in his family, so the name ends with him if we don’t have another boy. I know it sounds silly to some, but it means a lot to him 🙂
I want a sibling for Little One. If something should happen to us, I don’t want her to be alone.
Cindy:
Yes, and your story inspires me! I think of you often. You are right about the being ready to take that leap of faith. I feel like I am on the fence and should just jump. Little One turned out fine. Big hugs!
Louann:
Thank you! xoxoxo
Jackie:
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. You always seem to know the perfect things to say 🙂
P.S. When are we ever going to have that coffee?! 😉
Hubby:
Thank you, Love! We love you too! xo
First, congrats on the grant!!!
Secondly, listen to your heart. I can’t even begin to fathom what you went through. When your heart is ready, talk to your OB/family doctor and plan. Have a game plan going. That alone would help ease some of the fears you’re having.
Also it’s perfectly ok to just have one child. There are no rules in parenting that says “You should have this many kids”…
I get those same questions too. They ask when I’m going to give Chunky who just turned 3 a sibling…but because of my experience with postpartum depression, i don’t know if I could have another. I just wish that people would mind their business.
Go with your heart friend…it always has the right answer 😉
I wonder if talking to your OB might help…ask him/her what the possibilities and likelihoods are, what the constraints would be, etc. I remember you had to be on bed rest for quite awhile. Would that happen again, or is there a possibility of escaping that? If it would, is there a way to make it work with a toddler in the house? These are serious questions, and I’m not sure that taking it by faith would be enough for me. I’d want to know my chances, my worries, and so on. And if it doesn’t seem like a safe path…have you considered raising an only child? Or adoption? Both good options. Also, maybe surrogate? None of this may be necessary. It may be totally fine to go ahead and have a baby the natural way. But I’m like you, and I’d want to have a lot of information and options available to me before I made a decision.
You know my story already…I think it all comes down to that last sentence, of if you are ready to take a leap of faith or not. And maybe you aren’t, and that’s ok! I waited a LONG time before I was ready again to deal with the potentials of our pregnancy.
C, don’t let your fears consume you. Praying for you always =)
You will know what to do and when, listen to your heart. You are too strong and smart of a person not to.
Again, good job Honey. Love you and Little One.