Actually, it’s not my toddler who is having issues with this whole potty training thing. It’s me!
Part of it is due to me feeling guilty. Guilty that I have to work all day and not spend the time I need to be with her to teach her how to use the potty. She’s pretty much potty training herself.
No. Seriously. She is.
Little One wears panties at home or goes around au naturel and tells us, “I have to go toilet!” She’s been pretty good at #2, which surprises me. I’ve read that some children have a harder time with #2. It’s #1 she forgets about and has little accidents sometimes. Occasionally, I’ll step into a warm puddle and moments later will hear, “I peed!”
Another thing is that though I should embrace each and every milestone and enjoy each stage of childhood, Little One being almost potty trained makes me a little sad. It signals the end of her babyhood. Of course it means the end of diapers (wooo hooo!), but the end of babyhood too.
Yes, I realize she’s no longer a baby and I don’t treat her that way. It doesn’t make it easier though. I feel like having to work and being with students all day means I spend more time with other people’s children than my own child.
One last potty issue is that I feel pressured by other moms who say things like, “Oh. She’s not potty trained yet?” or “My child was out of her diapers before she turned two!”
Little One’s pediatrician and Neonatologist mentioned that by 3, children are “ready” to start potty training and they “understand” what it’s all about. She said that many parents rush their children and think that “Oh! The magical number has to be 2. By 2, they need to be out of their diapers!”
The more reading and research I’ve been doing, the more I realize that Little One is on the right track. She’s showing interest in going on the toilet, she knows what to do, she tells us (most of the time) when she needs to go, and she’s pleased as punch whenever she has a successful trip to the potty.
I guess what I really need to get into my head is that all children are different. They don’t have to go by the same time tables…and, don’t compare! This would be a lot easier if people didn’t compare. Why do people do that? I know that we don’t say, “Well, your child must be delayed because Little One was doing that a year earlier than your child” or “Wow. I can’t believe he is so far behind! Our child was walking, feeding herself, saying the alphabet, talking, and writing her thesis and defending it before she was 2!”
Fortunately for Little One, I don’t project these feelings onto her. I don’t want her to grow up with a complex or anything. Instead, I keep the annoying things people say to myself (Ha! Or now on the blog!) and hope I don’t die of stress or an anxiety attack.
Who says things like that? Why would it even matter? What pleasure do people get in comparing babies, toddlers, children?
Do any of you have inspirational potty stories to share? Tips, perhaps?
*Photo of Little One just after she got into one of our students’ toiletry bags. She’s covered head to toe in toothpaste. Nice.